Homosexuals VS Heterosexuals = X by Rose (Hasan Bukroot)

Homosexuals VS Heterosexuals = X by Rose (Hasan Bukroot)

Until 1962 it was considered a legitimate crime to participate in homosexual acts.
Until 1973 the American Psychiatric Association had homosexuality listed as a mental disorder.
In 1993, America allowed gays to serve in the military, as long as they weren’t open about their sexual orientation.
In 2000, Vermont became the first state to legally recognize civil unions between homosexual couples, entitling them to the same benefits and responsibilities as spouses.
Today, in 2011, 41 states still prohibit same-sex marriage.

These are all indisputable historical facts. Therefore, they are illuminated with neither a positive nor a negative light. But when it comes to opinions, one can’t help but notice that people are making it seem a little too black and white. Acknowledging what the LGBT community does appears to be considered either good or bad. Couldn’t it possibly be both though? Or perhaps… neither?

Was it considered a bad thing when African Americans fought for their rights? How about when women first started fighting for theirs? Was that bad? Not for the struggling parties, it wasn’t. For them it was a victory worth striving for. But, for those opposed, civilization as they knew it was coming to a horrific end. What it all comes down to is… perspective. As history has proven many times over: tightly woven minorities that rise up can quickly gain power over – and thus acceptance from – the majority. Let’s be honest here; Homosexuals, bisexuals and the transgendered are finally gaining recognition as official branches of the gender tree and it won’t be long before they can barely be considered a minority any more. I don’t know about you, but I’m pretty sure majorities don’t usually like it when minorities take a stand.

Just like every other social reform in the past, the opposing teams both believe they have justice on their side and each stand firmly behind their logic. But why does one group have to be wrong in order for the other to be right? They both have good points supporting their argument, and they both occasionally take misguided actions that harm their own cause.

Now I won’t be going into detail, but the bottom line is that if we really want this situation to straighten out, we’re in serious need of a compromise. Both parties ought to be more discrete and understanding of each other’s wishes. The gay community is demanding civil rights, but along with rights there must be responsibilities. That’s how it works. If they want to be accepted and allowed liberties that until now have only been a privilege of their heterosexual counterparts, then the least they can do is be respectful of those who simply don’t like to see the homosexual lifestyle being publically flaunted. Just like it’s not nice for a heterosexual couple to make their relationship a little “too obvious” outside the privacy of their home, so should it be accepted by the gay community that some things are only between you and your partner. Being free to express yourself doesn’t mean you should rub it in everybody’s face – whatever “it” is.

Similarly, the anti-gay advocates will have to come to terms with the fact that certain things are just out of their control. They must understand that what a homosexual, bisexual or transgendered individual does in his or her own time is his or her own business. It does not affect anyone else. Besides, if you are firm in your beliefs and decisions, nothing anyone says or does can sway you. If you’re not, then those leading a different kind of life aren’t who you should be worried about. Just think about it: avid heterosexuals ARE trying to make homosexuals “switch back”, but do the gays feel threatened by this? No. Why do you think that is? I know it sounds cliché, but our life is in our own hands. We alone have the power to change it or keep it exactly as it is, as long as we know what we want.

Furthermore, I’d like to add that being a homosexual, bisexual or transgendered person is not a stroll in the park, so I don’t see how anyone could believe it could possibly be a conscious choice, or a way of life young people can be “lured into”. The members of the LGBT community
• are often judged based on their sexuality and the stereotypes that surround it rather than on their individual personality traits
• rarely get the respect they deserve from heterosexuals
• have to prove that their intimate relationships should be taken seriously
• and have to constantly strive to make and keep friends because they don’t know if they’re dealing with an accepting person or a potential homophobe.

Dealing with all these things in addition to the stresses of everyday life takes courage and strength. Most people don’t have what it takes. Those who do should be praised for it. Not mocked and belittled. And certainly not considered a threat.

So to the supporters of the anti-gay movement, I say: try to be a little more open to the idea that there will be gay men and women working in your office, same-sex couples holding hands in your neighborhood and yes, perhaps even getting married. There is nothing you can do about that, so you might as well come to terms with it and show some decency. To the supporters of all things LGBT, I say: try to be a little …less open. I’m not saying waltz right back into that closet. I’m merely saying that you can’t expect to gain respect if you don’t show it first.

Both parties must accept and respect each other, if they are to successfully coexist. Let’s not revert to the discrepancies of the middle ages, where anyone nonconformist could be burnt at the stake or tortured until they agreed to adapt to the norm. Being different no longer has to be synonymous with being wrong. We live in a world where everyone should share the same civil rights – regardless of their race, age, status, gender or lifestyle – and denying anyone those rights goes against the very foundations of the society we’ve worked so hard to build. Nobody likes to be stripped of what’s rightfully theirs. So to quote Matthew 7:12 "Therefore all things whatsoever ye would that men should do to you, do ye even so to them." For those who don’t speak “Bible”, in English that would be "Treat others as you would like to be treated." And hey presto! Everyone’s happy.


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